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-- Ayesha Syed--

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How many mistakes or failures have you experienced over the course of your life? Imagine how your life would be if you never made a particular mistake more than once. Most of us repeat the same mistakes over and over. Mistakes have value: you can learn from them.

Similarly, successes can be repeated. Yet, it’s common to see someone that’s been successful change course and sabotage himself. If you can repeat your successes and avoid repeating the same mistakes, everything becomes easier. Life is also a lot more fun and rewarding.

The answer is reflective thinking.

Evaluate your successes and failures each day: 

  • At the end of each day, determine the positives and negatives. Perhaps your boss yelled at you and you had a great workout. Consider the entire day and focus on the positive and the negative. The idea is to eliminate the negative outcomes and increase the likelihood of the positive outcomes occurring again.
  • Determine the cause of each outcome. Why did your boss yell at you? Is it something you could control? If she yelled because her husband left her, that’s out of your control. However, let’s suppose she yelled because your report was two days late, and you’ve been showing up to work 15 minutes late.

 

  • You also determine that had a great workout because you slept more than usual the night before and had a snack two hours before your workout.

 

  • Take advantage of your new knowledge. How can you avoid getting in trouble with your boss in the future? Get your work done on time and show up on time.

 

  • If you want to continue having great workouts, get to bed at a reasonable time, take a snack to work, and make the time to eat it.

 

  • Create a plan to use the new knowledge. You could purchase a book on beating procrastination and resolve to get all your work done on time. You could improve your work habits and learn how to avoid wasting time. You could set your alarm earlier and streamline your morning routine to arrive on time each day.
  • Visualize success. Imagine yourself behaving in the new manner. Imagine the positive benefits you’ll receive.
  • Remind yourself of the consequences if you don’t follow through. What would happen if you continued to be tardy to work and your assignments were completed late? Your employment status would be in jeopardy. That’s a serious consequence for most of us. Poor workouts could mean that you never lose those last 15 pounds.
  • Feel the pain of failing to change.

 

  • Monitor your thoughts and feelings. If you’re resistant to changing, changing will be much more difficult. Let go of your negative thoughts and feelings. It’s natural to resist change, but you can do it.
  • Monitor your results. Are you completing your work on time? Are you arriving on time? How are your workouts?

 

  • New habits are challenging to form. It may take time until your new strategies become automatic.
  • Continue honing your process until your results are acceptable. Small adjustments will be necessary along the way.

After a few months, you might find that you’ve licked most of your everyday mistakes. You might be better served by sitting down once a week and reviewing the week as a whole. Consider all the different areas of your life: relationships, finances, work, health, and so on. Use reflective thinking to enhance your life. Get value from your victories and defeats.

If you want to discuss this aspect of your life, feel free to contact me for a free consultation so I can inspire you to live your best possible life!

 
You probably know that laughter is good for you, but you may not realize what it can do for your relationships. New research suggests that couples who chuckle together, stay together.
 
A recent study found that simultaneous laugher creates staying power. Couples who laughed together more often, and for a longer time, had relationships characterized by greater quality, closeness, and social support. The findings come from psychologists at the University of North Carolina who videotaped men and women talking about how they met.
 
So now, you know that working on your marriage can be fun! Try these suggestions for creating a stronger and merrier love connection.
 
Understanding the Benefits of Laughter
 

  • Enhance your health. Laughing burns about 50 calories an hour and gives your heart a terrific workout. It also boosts your immune system, lowers your blood pressure, and heightens your sense of wellbeing.

  • Strengthen your resiliency. Studies have found that laughing also increases your tolerance for discomfort and stress. That patience comes in handy when you’re living with someone.

  • Increase your productivity. In the workplace, group humor has been found to have a positive effect on performance and morale. Try it at home when you’re dividing up chores or painting the house.

Clearing Away the Obstacles to Shared Laughter
 

  • Free up time. Humor has more to do with natural daily conversation than with telling jokes. Spending time together will make you more susceptible to whooping it up.

  • Manage stress. It’s easier to giggle when you’re already feeling relaxed. Try meditating each morning or taking a walk after dinner to dissolve tensions.

  • Resolve conflicts. The objective here is to laugh with each other, not at each other. Your partner will be more likely to appreciate how funny you are if you pick up your socks, and consult them before making major purchases.

Creating More Opportunities to Laugh Together
 

  • Watch a video. The internet puts comedy at your fingertips. Click on a video of raccoons playing or kids singing.

  • Visit with family. Speaking of children, you probably both have relatives who can provide hours of entertainment. Think of your aunt who still gives you Girl Scout cookies each Christmas or the cousin who really did run away to join a circus.

  • Do something silly. Warm up your feet in bunny slippers or wear a Halloween mask while serving dinner. Blow soap bubbles or play a game of Twister.

  • Take risks. If you’re too busy to go searching for your Halloween mask, look for funny moments that happen naturally. When you’re challenging yourself, you’re bound to experience an occasional mishap that you can turn into an amusing dinner story.

  • Redecorate your house. Put out a picture or an object that makes you crack up each time you see it. Maybe you both like black velvet paintings of Elvis or giant inflatable spiders.

  • Remember your childhood. Reminisce about what cracked you up when you were in grade school. Introduce your partner to your favorite old Saturday morning cartoons or Jell-O recipes.

  • Create new memories. During the years you spend together, gather more stories that give you material to laugh about. Maybe you met in line at the Motor Vehicle Department. Maybe you adopted one of those two-timing cats that show up on the local news when it turns out they had a second family all along.

Share more laughter with your partner. You’ll both be rewarded with greater health and happiness that enriches your lives together.

If you want to discuss this aspect of your life, feel free to contact me for a free consultation
 so I can inspire you to live your best possible life!

It’s easy to get stuck in a rut. Many of us live the same day repeatedly. We get up, go to work, come home, eat dinner, watch TV, and go to bed. The next day is a re-run. We all have other things we’d like to accomplish, but it seems that we run out of day before we have time to work on the more meaningful parts of life.
 
How much time do you spend on the most important aspects of your life – those activities that fulfill your life purpose? Has your life changed considerably in the last year? The last 10 years? At your current rate of progress, where will you end up 10 years from today?
 
Try these timesaving activities to free up part of your day for more important matters:
 

  • Create a to-do list each day. Spend a few minutes each evening and make a list for the following day. Decide how you’re going to spend your time each day. Include tasks that address both short-term needs and long-term objectives.

  • List your focus for the next year. It might be to get a promotion, increase your skill on the piano, or become a more effective parent. It’s not possible to reliably create a fantastic life or accomplish amazing things without being aware of them beforehand.

 

  • Knowing your purpose for the next 12 months will prevent you from wasting your time on less important tasks.

  • Focus on progress and forget perfection. Perfection takes too long. It’s also not much better than doing the job well. Perfection is often used as an excuse to spend too much time on a task. Do the task at the appropriate level and move on.

  • Take a moment several times each day to evaluate your progress and activity. Are you spending your time wisely? Is there a better action you could be taking? It’s easy to be caught up in meaningless tasks. Just because you’re busy doesn’t mean you’re accomplishing anything meaningful.

  • Monotask. It’s time for everyone to give up the notion that multitasking is efficient. Studies repeatedly show that multitasking is less efficient. Just because you’re better at multitasking than everyone else doesn’t mean it’s the optimal solution. Do one thing and then move on.

  • Notice how you waste time. When you’re bored, how do you amuse yourself? What do you do when you procrastinate? Social media, television, web surfing, and texting are the more common activities. Notice how you waste time and recognize when it happens.

 

  • The sooner you’re able to stop yourself, the better the odds of success.

 

  • Just say “no.” That simple word can be challenging to utter. We don’t like to disappoint others. Once you have a reputation for saying “yes,” the requests never stop. You’ll be driving your neighbor to the airport and get stuck baking the cake for every office celebration.

 

  • Refusing requests is a way of respecting your time and goals. Avoid biting off more than you can chew. Be helpful, but not at the expense of your own life.

 

  • Schedule time for yourself. Outside of work, meals, and sleep, most of us fail to schedule adequately. If your dream is to author a novel, build time into your daily schedule to sit down and write.

  • Declutter your life. Sure, get rid of the extra junk on the shelves, but there’s more to a full decluttering. Drop the activities, people, thoughts, and ideas that take up time or energy without providing an acceptable level of return. Let go of the things that prevent you from focusing on your life purpose.

 
It’s easy to squander away your time. With much of our days filled with work and sleep, it can be challenging to find the time for other activities. Define your purpose and make it a priority. Your life will be enhanced immeasurably.

If you want to discuss this aspect of your life, feel free to contact me for a free consultation
 so I can inspire you to live your best possible life!

If you’re not afraid, you’re not human. Everyone is afraid of something. Fears tend to evolve and change over time. A young child might be afraid of the dark. A middle-aged man is afraid of embarrassing himself during a speech. A newborn is afraid of loud noises. All other fears are learned. What have you learned to be afraid of?
 
Turn the tables and use fear to your advantage:
 

  • Determine why you’re afraid. If you’re afraid of falling off a cliff and dying, your fear might be warranted, and further evaluation is required. If it’s just your ego talking, you know that the fear isn’t in your best interest. That’s the fear that keeps you in your current situation.

  • Reframe the situation. The fact that you’re physically uncomfortable doesn’t have to control your thoughts or actions. When you’re feeling anxious, take that as a sign that something great might be getting ready to happen. Step outside your comfort zone and take advantage of the opportunity.

 

  • Use your fear to your advantage. It’s a good thing, not something to be avoided. Embrace it.

 

  • Make a list of all of your fears. You’ll notice a pattern. It might be a fear of embarrassment, success, or becoming isolated. By understanding the core of your fears, you can better deal with them.

 

  • By addressing the core issue, you may be able to eliminate many of your fears at the source.

  • Use fear to propel you forward. The most successful people have been those that faced fear successfully. Conquering one fear makes you more capable. The next fear will be even easier. Defeating a small fear makes the more significant fears more manageable. The confidence you gain can be applied to all areas of your life.

  • Use fear as an opportunity to practice relaxation techniques. You might hate dinner parties, but they’re a great chance to work on your conversational skills. When you’re feeling fear, you have the chance to practice relaxing. Focusing on breathing slowly and think positive thoughts. You might as well get something out of your suffering!

  • Recognize that fear is self-induced. It’s only your perception of the event that creates your fear. And fear is just a feeling. It may include physical symptoms, but it’s a feeling nevertheless.

 

  • If your life isn’t in danger, your fear is just a guess. When you can realize this fact, you’ll also realize that all of your other feelings follow the same rules. If you can make yourself feel bad, you can make yourself feel good, too.

  • Use fear to enhance your discipline. Fear occurs when your brain tries to stop you from doing something. It makes you uncomfortable until you run away from the source of your fear. Use the opportunity to exercise your ability to push through the anxiety.

  • Discipline is the ability to do things you don’t feel like doing. You don’t need discipline to do the things you enjoy. Does it take discipline to eat a potato chip? No. It takes discipline to stop. You need discipline to face your fears. Begin cultivating it.

 

  • Get the help you need. Perhaps you need help getting over deep-seated fears. There’s probably a good reason why they’re deep-seated. Use your fear as motivation to get help. You might find you need help with a few other mental health issues too. Getting help for your fear could help you move forward with a myriad of new benefits.

 
Fear isn’t something to be avoided. Use fear to your advantage. Fear is a wonderful opportunity to learn about yourself. Fear can also be used as chance to grow on a personal level. If you’re not afraid, you’re not living.

If you want to discuss this aspect of your life, feel free to contact me for a free consultation
 so I can inspire you to live your best possible life!

If you want to lose weight and eat healthier, the solution could be as easy as watching the clock. A recent study found that adults who eat on a regular schedule have healthier diets overall.
 
Researchers found that college students who ate at about the same time each day consumed more vegetables and fruit, and less sugar and fast food. The effects were even more impressive when they packed their own lunch. The findings reinforce previous theories about the importance of contextual eating cues.
 
Eating context refers to the physical, social, and psychological environment in which you dine. Streamline your diet with these tips for maintaining regular mealtimes and other helpful habits.
 
How to Stick to Regular Mealtimes
 

  • Start with breakfast. Have your first meal within the first hour after you wake up. If you don’t care for traditional breakfast items, try being more creative. Have a bowl of soup or a salad with grilled fish.

  • Hold family dinners. Share the benefits of healthy eating with your loved ones. Create a consistent dinnertime that works for your schedule. Keep in mind that we tend to eat more when dining in groups, but stimulating conversation can be even more rewarding than anything on your plate.

  • Master quick recipes. Meals don’t have to be time consuming. Feast on sandwiches or hummus with cut vegetables.

  • Cook and freeze. For heartier fare, cook in batches and freeze individual portions. That way you’ll have chili or lasagna in minutes.

  • Snack strategically. Does lunchtime seem too far away? Sip a smoothie with juice and kale or pack yogurt and baby carrots to take with you to the office. A small and balanced snack can sustain you so you can hold out until your next meal.

  • Dine at home. Whether you prefer fast food or fancy restaurants, eating out tends to make you eat more. Save money and calories by enjoying more home-cooked meals.

  • Play host. Holidays and entertaining can interfere with your diet. Take control by offering your hospitality so you can predict meal times and include lighter options on the menu.

How to Use Other Contextual Eating Cues
 

  • Sit down. Eating on the go makes it easy to lose track of how many calories you’re taking in. Pull up a chair and dine sitting down.

  • Turn off the TV. Similarly, you can polish off a whole bag of chips before you know it when you’re watching Mad Men or browsing the internet. Pay attention to your food. You’ll probably eat less and enjoy it more.

  • Set the table. Decorate your dining area in a way that makes you want to slow down and savor your meals. Buy a pretty tablecloth and use your good dishes. Create a centerpiece with fresh flowers from your garden or candles from a thrift shop.

  • Practice relaxation. You probably know that feeling blue can make you wolf down too much ice cream, but did you realize that being excited can have the same effect? Cultivate a neutral mind by meditating or taking a walk.

  • Choose supportive friends. We tend to behave like those around us. Hang out with friends who eat lots of vegetables and visit the gym frequently.

  • Keep a diary. Each of us has our own triggers that can sabotage our good intentions. Writing down what you eat and what was going on at the time will help you to spot your weak spots and develop effective strategies.

Regular mealtimes play an essential role in managing your eating context. Once you develop simple habits that support positive choices, you’ll be able to eat a nutritious diet and watch your weight with less effort and more success.

If you want to discuss this aspect of your life, feel free to contact me for a free consultation
 so I can inspire you to live your best possible life!

It’s possible to enhance your personality and your ability to share it more authentically with others. You’ll form stronger and more meaningful relationships if you’re able to be yourself. Maybe you’ve been too reserved in the past to let others see the real you. You can change that by taking the bull by the horns.
 
Show the world who you really are:
 

  • Strengthen your conversational skills. You can’t reveal your true personality if you don’t communicate effectively. Conversational skills are important and influence multiple areas of your life. You also build your personality by conversing with others. You can’t know everything, so learning from others is one way to grow and become more interesting.

 

  • Poor communication skills result in being misunderstood. Your personality will be misunderstood, too.

  • Share your opinion. Have you ever spoken to someone that didn’t have an opinion? It’s boring. Many of us keep our opinions to ourselves in an effort not to offend, but it has a negative effect. Interesting people have opinions. Be brave enough to share yours.

 

  • Make a pact with yourself to always have an opinion. When you’re asked about your movie or dinner preference, give an answer other than, “I don’t care” or “I don’t know.”

  • Be positive. A negative outlook brings out the worst in all of us. Put your best foot forward by being upbeat. Being around others that complain and see the dark side of life is tiresome. Be uplifting and allow your real personality to shine.

  • Be yourself. Just like your mom said. Pretending to be someone you’re not is dishonest. It’s also hard on your self-esteem. Embrace the parts of you that are unique and share them with others. Some people will like you while others do not. That’s true regardless of your personality.

  • Engage in your interests. Make the time to pursue the activities that appeal to you. Go mountain climbing, learn to play the banjo, or volunteer with the homeless. When you’re living your life to the fullest, people can see you at your best. You’ll enjoy life much more, too.

  • Become a better listener. Listening has several benefits. It will lower your anxiety, make the other person feel important, and create a connection.

 

  • The better the connection, the more likely you’ll be to show your true colors. You learn much more while you’re listening.

  • Increase your social circle. Expose yourself to new opinions and cultures. Meet new people and watch your personality blossom. You’ll become stagnant by hanging out with the same people all of the time.

  • Be respectful. You’re a respectful person and have integrity, even if you haven’t been showing it lately. You deserve the same from others. Show people the best you have to offer and you’ll inspire others to follow suit.

  • Relax. If you’re not relaxed, you’re protecting yourself. If you’re protecting yourself, you’re not being your true self. Be more carefree. See the humorous side of life. Your true personality is revealed when you’re happy and light.

  • Read. Develop greater knowledge about the world and the things that matter to you. Become an expert on the topics that fascinate you. Your personality will grow and reveal itself more completely.

 
Do your friends and family know the real you? Does it take new acquaintances a long time to know you well? There’s no reason to keep yourself a secret! Let the world see your true personality. You’ll be glad you did! 

If you want to discuss this aspect of your life, feel free to contact me for a free consultation
 so I can inspire you to live your best possible life!

Your life is a lot more complicated than your dog’s. He probably spends most of his time sleeping, eating, and chewing on a squeaky toy. You have to go to work, put your kids through college, and save for retirement.
 
Yet, when it comes to training, some of the principles that work for your dog can help you too. See what you can learn from basic obedience classes when it comes to your personal growth and development.
 
Strategies That Work for You and Your Dog
 
Whether you’re trying to walk your dog on a leash or speak Russian, some fundamentals apply to any learning project. Consider these tips for mastering new skills.
 

  • Clarify your goals. Identify the behavior that you want to focus on. It’s usually more effective to think in terms of forming a new habit rather than breaking an old pattern.

  • Practice regularly. For any learning to take hold, it’s important to repeat the steps over and over. Make your new activities part of your daily life.

  • Pace yourself. Start with your top priorities like running each day or studying for your CPA exam. Postpone other projects that could drain your time and energy. Start out small, and gradually increase the time and intensity of your efforts.

  • Expect off days. Whatever you’re working on, prepare yourself for ups and downs. Some days you’ll feel sharper than others.

  • Be consistent. You’ll reinforce new habits quicker if you try to follow a regular routine. Do yoga at the same time each morning or devote one corner of your bedroom to a meditation space.

  • Offer rewards. Boost your motivation by giving yourself something to look forward to. Maybe you love bacon-flavored crackers as much as your dog does or maybe you’d prefer a night out at the movies.

  • Consider consequences. Choose actions that deliver the results you dream about. An afternoon spent on gardening or volunteering in your community will probably be more gratifying than watching television.

  • Create positive associations. You’ve probably heard about giving a dog a treat or toy to relieve separation anxiety. While you probably don’t panic when your spouse goes to work, you can use a similar strategy with your own stressors. Listen to opera while you iron or wear cashmere socks on job interviews.

  • Leverage your strengths. Just like greyhounds run and huskies pull sleds, you have your own unique gifts. Figure out what you like to do and what you’re good at. Capitalize on your assets in your personal and professional life.

  • Remain cheerful. When you run into a challenge, smile and think positive. A happy attitude encourages learning.

 
Other Essential Tips for Growth
 
On the other hand, you have a lot more options than your dog. Take advantage of your human abilities.
 

  • Plan ahead. Your dog excels at living in the moment, but has a harder time making the connection between chewing your shoes and being corrected hours later when you arrive home from work. On the other hand, you can think long-term and care for your future self.

  • Continue learning. There’s some controversy about whether you can teach an old dog new tricks, but humans can certainly keep advancing in their golden years. Sign up for cooking classes or start playing tennis.

  • Consult a professional. Your dog doesn’t know that an expert might be able to help him with his chronic barking, but you can reach out for counseling and other services when you feel stuck. Asking for help requires wisdom and strength.

Overall, what works for your dog often works for you too. When you’re trying to form healthier habits, be patient with yourself and reinforce your positive choices.

If you want to discuss this aspect of your life, feel free to contact me for a free consultation
 so I can inspire you to live your best possible life!

Some studies show that teens who work part-time jobs have lower grades and higher risk for issues like alcohol and drug abuse. Other studies show that early employment leads to higher graduation rates and increased lifetime earnings. What’s a parent to believe?
 
It turns out that there’s some truth on both sides of the argument, and the choices you make can help determine the outcomes. Read this before your child asks you if they can mow lawns or work at the mall.
 
Managing the Downside of Part-Time Work for Teens
 

  • Reduce the hours. Most of the negative outcomes for teens who work are associated with putting in more than 15 hours a week. As long as you stick to 15 hours per week or less during the school year, you can eliminate most of the risks for a decline in school performance or forming questionable new friendships.

  • Write out a budget. Another potential drawback is the tendency for teens to pick up extravagant spending habits that will be tough to break when they’re in college or settling into their first home. Make a plan for how to use their paycheck responsibly.

  • Emphasize safety. Some jobs pose more hazards than others. You may want to give your approval for tutoring and counseling at summer camp rather than delivery or construction work.

  • Research labor laws. Federal and state laws regulate the hours and type of work that minors can do. Ensure you follow the rules for work permits and other requirements.

  • Visit the workplace. Take a first-hand look at where your son or daughter will be employed. Introduce yourself to their new boss. Observe their co-workers.

  • Put academics first. Remind your teen that completing their education is their primary job. Agree in advance that being permitted to work is conditional upon maintaining their grades and participating in school activities.

Maximizing the Benefits of Part-Time Work for Teens
 

  • Develop soft skills. Dealing with a demanding boss and dissatisfied customers instills qualities like punctuality and patience. It’s a good complement to classroom education.

  • Save for college. While your teen may want to keep some of their paycheck for buying burgers and music, encourage them to put aside money for something more lasting. The funds will come in handy as tuition costs rise.

  • Review career plans. If possible, consider a job that aligns with your child’s interests in sports medicine or ethnic jewelry. They’ll feel more motivated and may even find a mentor.

  • Practice job hunting. Just looking for a job is valuable training. Your child can practice browsing job boards, filling out applications, and interviewing before they face the financial pressures that come with living on their own.

  • Gather references. Wherever your sons or daughters work, their supervisors can provide positive recommendations for college applications and future jobs. These early contacts can be the beginning of your child’s professional network.

  • Provide supervision. Are you concerned about what your teen is doing in the hours between school letting out and your arriving home from work? A shift at the local coffee shop will fill that time.

  • Teach diversity. In spite of all the benefits of employment, fewer youths are in the workforce today. Just 33% of teens had a summer job in 2009 compared to 52% in 2000, according to the Bureau of Labor. A part time job can be a unique opportunity to introduce teens to a wide variety of citizens from different backgrounds.

As a parent, you can guide your child towards making their first work experience a rewarding investment in their future. Hold down the number of hours and discuss responsible budgeting so they’ll be prepared for academic and career success.

If you want to discuss this aspect of your life, feel free to contact me for a free consultation
 so I can inspire you to live your best possible life!

Grief can be a long recovery process and isn’t easy to handle. If you’re dealing with grief, it’s important to allow the process to take its time.
 
Grief can’t be avoided or eliminated quickly. However, there are some processes and activities that you can use to help you feel some relief as you heal.
 
Try these strategies to help you understand your grief and recover:
 

  • Understand grief. Grief refers to the way you handle a loss. The loss can range from a loved one to a pet. Grief can also occur over the loss of health, employment, and other life events.

 

  • Grief doesn’t fit one cookie-cutter definition. It can vary greatly from one person to the next, and even change during one person’s lifetime. The way you handle loss can differ at various stages of your life.

 

  • Grief can include anger, resentment, sadness, guilt, and other feelings.

 

  • Changing thoughts. One of the common themes of grief is changing thoughts. This can occur rapidly and take you from feeling fine to feeling absolutely devastated, all in a few minutes.

 

  • Your thoughts about your loss will also vary through shock, sadness, guilt, anger, and acceptance as you go through the grieving process.

  • Concerns of loved ones. The grief process can be different in each person, so the way you handle it may not be the same as your friends or family. Your loved ones may be concerned about your grieving process. They may feel your process is too short or too long. They may feel that you’re hiding your emotions or sharing them too much.

 

  • Your friends and family need to understand that the grief process doesn’t have a set expiration date. You’re not required to stop grieving at a particular point in time. Your process may take longer or shorter than what others perceive as normal.

  • Let them know of anything they can do to help you, such as preparing meals, helping with the house or errands, taking the kids off your hands for a while, or anything else you feel would bring you some relief.

 

  • Using distractions. It’s common to use distractions to deal with grief. Distractions can help you temporarily forget the pain. They can also make you avoid dealing with the emotional impact of your loss. It’s important to use distractions in moderation and be patient with your feelings.

 

  • Focusing on work or hobbies, watching a funny movie, or reading a great novel can help keep your mind occupied temporarily.

  • Preoccupation with the loss. The nature of your loss can preoccupy you and make you focus solely on the grief.  

 

  • Part of the recovery process is understanding that long-term preoccupation with the loss isn’t healthy. This differs from short-term preoccupation, which will happen for a while. As time goes on, if you continue to feel this preoccupation, seeking outside help from a counselor may help.

 

  • Support groups and therapy. Grief counselors can help guide you through your grief and find ways to help you deal with your loss.

 

  • You may also benefit from support groups or therapy sessions.

  • Also, there are forums and Facebook groups filled with others who are also experiencing grief. The people there can help you sort through your thoughts and share ideas that have helped them.

 

  • Accept the recovery process. It’s not possible to just skip over the pain of loss. If you accept that the recovery process will take time and effort, then it will be easier to handle it. Accept your feelings and focus on rebuilding your life after the loss.

 
The grief process can take a significant amount of time. You don’t have to pretend that it’s easy to fix. The stages of the grieving process can be overwhelming at times, but your journey to recovery can be eased by seeking help from others and finding ways that allow you to move forward past the devastating effects.


If you want to discuss this aspect of your life, feel free to contact me for a free consultation so I can inspire you to live your best possible life!

Most of us rarely venture from our comfort zones. We perform the same actions and create situations that are comfortable and familiar to us. Unfortunately, life doesn’t change until our actions change.
 
New actions often fall outside of your current comfort zone. Since humans naturally seek comfort, this is quite the conundrum. It seems that one has to choose between comfort and growth.
 
Personal growth is for the brave.
 
Try these tips to take new actions and see positive changes in your life:
 

  • Make a change from your common media. Read a different type of book than you normally read. Listen to a new type of music. Watch a movie or TV show that you would’ve never considered before. Shake things up a little bit by watching and listening to something new.

  • Try new foods. Have you ever had Vietnamese or Korean food? Pick up the yellow pages and find a new restaurant. It’s uncomfortable to try new foods. That’s precisely the point. Learn to deal with a little discomfort.

  • Shake up your other routines. Try being a vegan for a week or get up two hours earlier. Take the bus downtown instead of driving. Meditate each evening for a month. Avoid procrastination for a week. Take on some new activities.

  • Take a comfort zone challenge. This has become a popular idea. The only purpose of a comfort zone challenge is to increase your resistance to social judgement. You build your courage and confidence, but never put yourself in any real danger. A few examples include:

 

  • Lie down on the sidewalk for 30 seconds in a busy city.
  • Sing your favorite song aloud in the grocery store.
  • Walk through the mall with your shirt on backwards.
  • Start a conversation with a very attractive man or woman.
  • Draw a smiley face on your forehead and walk around town.

  • Make small changes. Big changes are scary. Make a small change in your life and take things a little further each week. If you’re afraid of heights, look out a second story window. Next week, try the third floor. Several small changes are as effective as a single, larger one. This is easier than a comfort zone challenge, but much slower.

  • Understand the benefits of getting outside your comfort zone. Studies have shown that maximum productivity and performance happen during times of low to moderate stress. Stress helps us focus and perform. Being too comfortable actually creates challenges.

 

  • You’ll learn to deal with stress and uncertainty. By stressing yourself a bit on purpose, you’ll be better able to manage stress when it naturally arises.

  • Visit somewhere new. Spend the night in a new town. Try camping in the mountains. Rent an RV for a week. Or just try the mom and pop grocery store on the other side of town instead of the big box store down the street.

 

  • Learn to deal with being uncomfortable. Being uncomfortable isn’t always a good reason not to do something. Learn yoga, meditation, or another stress reducing technique. Apply it whenever you’re feeling stressed. It won’t be long before you can confidently do and experience new things.

 
Bust out of your comfort zone and live your life from a new perspective. Your comfort zone will trap you if you let it. It’s possible to live beyond your current habits. A little bravery can completely change your life. Try some new activities and see what happens. It’s okay to be uncomfortable. You’ll expand your comfort zone in ways you never thought you could.

If you want to discuss this aspect of your life, feel free to contact me for a free consultation so I can inspire you to live your best possible life!